If sexual thoughts or sexual activity feel out of control—or a loved one is affected—you’re not alone. New Convictions Recovery supports individuals and partners with licensed therapists, group therapy options, practical coping strategies, and a respectful, judgment-free process.We provide addiction counseling in Bernards, NJ, guided by New Convictions Recovery founder Roland Achtau, LCSW, LCADC, with a focus on privacy, mental health, and sustainable change.Request a Private Appointment
Personalized care may also include thoughtfully coordinated medication support when it’s appropriate, such as addressing anxiety, depression, or intrusive, obsessive thoughts in collaboration with your medical providers. In our work together, we focus on helping you build a stable, fulfilling life that is not driven by compulsive patterns. This often involves understanding your unique triggers, healing from past emotional wounds, and learning to manage difficult feelings without resorting to harmful behaviors. Here is what a meaningful recovery process may involve:
- Individual work: Exploring triggers, unresolved trauma, and developing practical coping tools.
- Relapse prevention: Creating a specific, realistic plan for high-risk situations and early warning signs.
- Accountability: Using monitoring tools and regular check-ins to help maintain consistent progress.
- Partner support: Offering education and resources for partners, including boundary setting and safety planning.
- Aftercare: Continuing sessions and connecting with community resources to lower the chance of relapse.
In Bernards, NJ, places like Pleasant Valley Park, the historic Basking Ridge downtown, and the peaceful trails at Lord Stirling Park can become part of your new routine—spaces to practice emotional regulation, rebuild self-worth, and reconnect with a sense of identity that is no longer centered on compulsive behavior.
How New Convictions Recovery Helps in Bernards, NJ
New Convictions Recovery offers a private, personalized approach—without the “assembly line” feel that some larger programs create.
Roland Achtau, LCSW, LCADC leads a team of addiction professionals who focus on practical change, not shame.
What clients often value most
- Clear next steps and a structured process (not vague advice)
- Respectful care for individuals, couples, and families
- Options for telehealth sessions for easier access across Bernards, NJ
- Coordination with other mental health professionals when needed
Learn more about our approach on the About Us page,
or explore related services under Services.
Support Groups and Trusted Resources
Many people combine therapy sessions with a 12-step program or skills-based community supports.
These resources can be a powerful layer of accountability between appointments.
- Sex Addicts Anonymous (SAA): peer support and structured recovery meetings
(saa-recovery.org) - SMART Recovery: evidence-informed tools for behavior change
(smartrecovery.org) - International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP): education and provider information
(iitap.com) - Therapist directory: find licensed therapists by specialty and location
(psychologytoday.com)
Frequently Asked Questions
What’s the difference between a high sex drive and an addiction?
A high libido isn’t the issue by itself. The red flags are loss of control, secrecy, and negative consequences—especially when behavior continues despite harm.
Do I need to “hit rock bottom” before therapy helps?
No. Early support often prevents escalation and reduces harm. Many people start when they notice growing distress, relationship strain, or unwanted behavior they can’t stop.
Can therapy help if pornography is the main problem?
Yes. Treatment can address triggers, compulsive habits, emotional regulation, and underlying factors like anxiety, trauma, or depression—while building healthier routines.
What if my partner doesn’t trust me anymore?
Rebuilding trust is a process. Couples counseling can help create transparency agreements, boundaries, and a repair plan—while also supporting partners affected by betrayal trauma.
Is group therapy required?
Not always, but it can be very effective. Many people benefit from group counseling or support groups because it reduces isolation and strengthens accountability.
Do you offer telehealth in Bernards, NJ?
In many cases, yes. Telehealth can make it easier to keep consistent sessions while maintaining privacy and flexibility.
How do I choose the right therapist?
Look for licensed clinicians with experience in compulsive sexual behaviors and related mental health concerns. It also matters that you feel safe, respected, and understood.
Take the Next Step
If you’re ready to change—or you’re worried about someone you love—support is available.
Reach out to New Convictions Recovery to discuss options, timing, and a plan that fits your situation.
Pros and Cons of Starting Therapy
| Pros | Cons |
|---|---|
| Clear guidance, structure, and support from trained professionals | Requires time and consistent follow-through |
| Tools for coping strategies, relapse prevention, and emotional regulation | Cost can be a factor depending on coverage and needs |
| Improved relationships and better mental health stability | Discussing past trauma or abuse can feel uncomfortable at first |
| Support for partners and couples navigating repair | Finding the right fit may take a few consultations |
Our NJ Locations
We Proudly Serve New Jersey
A local support network is crucial when working through an addiction. As such, we limit our service area to include the towns surrounding Bernards, NJ.
Other towns we serve: